It’s a popular idea that to be able to advance your career, you should focus on it and give it your all before raising a family of your own. There are these testimonies of successful individuals who married after they achieved their dreams and were then able to give their all to their families.But then, there are also those who shared their regrets for prioritizing their careers, having their children when they were already old when they could no longer match the energy of their kids.Whoever started the idea that you couldn’t have both a career and a family life simply had bad time management.
Remote learning and skills development
Find a job that will give you the opportunity to build your career even from home. Currently, because of the health crisis, companies have discovered work from home arrangements. But even before, there have already been companies that used remote work setups, with team building and leadership training held online. For sure, even after the pandemic-induced travel restrictions, this setup will be retained as it also costs less to the companies.
You could also enroll in online courses. There are short-term online courses that give certificates. There are even good universities, such as MIT and Oxford University, that offer degree programs online. You could use these degrees and certificates as leverage when you, later on, apply for an on-site learning degree.
That the woman should be taking care of the children is a dated idea. Nowadays, both mother and father take joint responsibility in parental duties.You and your partner could pursue your career goals even while raising your children if you cooperate in setting schedules and workloads. Each of you would know your non-negotiable schedules, meetings, and company activities. Build your schedule around these important dates. Both of you should keep in mind that you are partners in advancing your career and family life. No one’s meetings are more important than the other’s so you have to prioritize carefully your commitments.Of course, the first and most important factor that could make or break a good plan is your partner. Make sure he or she knows what you want and are planning to do with your life. More importantly, make sure that he or she will support you. Even if you lay a good plan, it would not succeed if you don’t level off with each other’s expectations.
Choose responsible godparents
If you and your partner could really not do anything about a conflicting schedule, it is best to leave your child with a good friend or relative who you could trust. Of course, there are reliable babysitters, but it is rare to find a babysitter who will have the same concern for your child as a close friend or relative would.Another option is to get to know your children’s playmates and their parents. Not just get to know but establish a good relationship with them. You could feel safe allowing your child to visit their children when you have important schedules. If they are like you who are also working hard and at the same time raising their kids, you could help each other.
Indulge your children’s interest in constructive hobbies
In the growing years of children, they would be interested in so many things. Let them explore, even suggest a hobby for them. If they are interested in a musical instrument, arrange lessons for them. Don’t think of it as a waste of money if they would lose interest later. It would give them the confidence to try anything. If they change their mind, rationalize with them why. They have to understand that they couldn’t do everything on a whim and must have a good reason when they decide on something. Never bring up the issue of money in this kind of talk. This way, they would feel that you value their development more than your money.
Your primary interest of course is to develop your child holistically. The positive side benefit of this is that your child would occupy his or her time with this hobby. This will leave you with time for yourself – or extra time for work if that’s how you want to spend your hours. Be sure, though, that if your children would take a serious interest in a hobby, you would also be there to show support during their important activities, like a recital or a game.Raising a family is never a valid excuse to stop working towards your career dreams. It would simply mean you gave up because you didn’t know how to manage to have the best of both worlds.